The author says ghosting on a job, as in leaving and not telling anyone, is partly due to bad social skills.
But we all know that’s crap, don’t we?
I gave one job two month’s notice to replace me because I knew it’d be difficult and I loved my boss. I can go back to that job anytime I want and I have no hard feelings toward that office bc my transition out of the job was smooth, just as I thought it’d be.
Just one job tho.
Everybody else got two weeks or less because I was leaving due to how much I hated the job, the pay, the management, etc. These jobs are not loyal to workers so why should we be loyal to the job? They can fire you with no notice but you have to give them 2 to 4 weeks? Pfffffffft!
That job will be just fine and will most likely have your replacement next week. And some intentionally make your life hell after you put in your notice.
You get a notice if I feel like you deserve a notice.
And co-workers don’t need to know your business. I don’t need buddies at the office – that’s work. I’m on Twitter instead of roaming around making chit chat because office gossip is how you fumble your bag. I don’t need any whispers behind my back about anything.
None of that has to do with “social skills” or any other lazy excuse. Pay workers more and treat them like people. If your employees feel expendable, they have no problem ghosting on that spot that you’ll easily fill with someone else you don’t care about.
i probably would’ve given at least some of my former employers 2 weeks notice if the job i was moving to would’ve held the opening for 2 weeks. but p much every time, i was trying to get out of a crap situation, and had no clue how long i’d be hunting for, and then when i got an interview they were like “ok you can start wednesday” and i didn’t feel like saying “no i can’t” would be a good way to get hired.
frankly, the reason i was switching jobs in the first place was because my employer couldn’t be trusted not to use those two weeks to punish me.
employees have a lot more to lose by giving notice than bosses do by not getting any.
So the Spoon Theory is a fundamental metaphor used often in the chronic pain/chronic illness communities to explain to non-spoonies why life is harder for them. It’s super useful and we use that all the time.
But it has a corollary.
You know the phrase, “Stick a fork in me, I’m done,” right?
Well, Fork Theory is that one has a Fork Limit, that is, you can probably cope okay with one fork stuck in you, maybe two or three, but at some point you will lose your shit if one more fork happens.
A fork could range from being hungry or having to pee to getting a new bill or a new diagnosis of illness. There are lots of different sizes of forks, and volume vs. quantity means that the fork limit is not absolute. I might be able to deal with 20 tiny little escargot fork annoyances, such as a hangnail or slightly suboptimal pants, but not even one “you poked my trigger on purpose because you think it’s fun to see me melt down” pitchfork.
This is super relevant for neurodivergent folk. Like, you might be able to deal with your feet being cold or a tag, but not both. Hubby describes the situation as “It may seem weird that I just get up and leave the conversation to go to the bathroom, but you just dumped a new financial burden on me and I already had to pee, and going to the bathroom is the fork I can get rid of the fastest.”
I like this and also I like the low key point that you may be able to cope with bigger forks by finding little ones you can remove quickly. A combination of time, focus, and reduction to small stressors that can allow you to focus on the larger stressor in a constructive way.
It’s not just Tumblr, people. This shit is getting ridiculous.
Of course it’s not Tumblr!
They came for Craigslist personals first because that’s the oldest trick in the book: Sneakily taking down the ‘perverts’ under the guise of vague, high morality goals and working slowly up from the bottom, picking off larger and larger targets. Few people cared about CL because of the stereotype of scary unwashed creeps trawling for sex online. That wasn’t so familiar or cute so it was fair game.
Tumblr is biting at the ‘artists’ heels and suddenly there is a bit more noise, because artists aren’t supposed to be treated like shit, are they? However even now the hair-splitting over what’s porn and therefore garbage and not-art shows that attitudes are not so different. It’s still the same divisive, dangerous us v.s. themmentality that is so easily exploited.
This is why when people tell me I shouldn’t worry about this because ‘my art isn’t porn anyway’ it makes me angry. It means so much more than drawings or a silly blog. This is about people being slowly phased out of their freedoms, rights and agency. History has shown time and time again that whenever power wants to make a crushing move backwards, it comes for what it declares ‘obscene’ first. People are raised to be scared and ignorant of sex so it’s an easy gateway. When they come cracking down on sex is when we most need to pay very close attention. They are not protecting us.
Yeah. This isn’t about whether *you*, specifically, don’t want NSFW content shoved in front of your eyeballs, it’s about whether the people who want to see NSFW content have the right to see it *at all*.
It’s also about what counts as ‘nsfw’ or ‘pornographic’ content. The article hints at it but doesn’t state it directly, but LGBT content – any LGBT content, even the most G-rated or strictly informative kind – is usually an early target in the name of ‘cleaning up’ a website. (YouTube, for example, is already guilty of doing this.)
I have no idea what this is from but i instantly love and support him. YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH MY SON
This is Gonzolo from Helix waltz!! He’s the oldest son of noble family Jorcastle, and the only chill one of the bunch (which isn’t really a high bar but still should be said). He’s in love with city guard Alan and will try and throw down with the main character if he thinks she’s trying to court Alan. Otherwise they’re thick as thieves when it comes to Courtly Shenanigans.
Aaaaa canonical gay characters as well as all this other coolness?? I’m really sad now cos it seems its not available on android 😦
that sucks 8( i have had this game on my phone for two weeks and it’s eaten me alive, send heeeelp….. I’ve been pleasantly surprised so far and apparantly you can romance men and women in it??
AAAAA IM SO JEALOUS!! You should post pica of your cute romances for those of us who cant play it ourselves. Id love to see your charrie’s adventures!
I’ll try and get some screencaps up in here!! I’m undecided on the romances, though, becuase “me trying to create an in-character romance for the main character” and “me as main character choosing romance” are two very different scenarios xD I”m not sure if MC would be quite as gung ho about PRETTY LADY BIG SWORD POTENTIAL RIVAL SPY as I am!
How are there people who haven’t heard of Elfquest?!!
Like, it was a LANDMARK of Independent Comics!! It basically helped kickstart the entire Indie Comics Boom in the 80s because it was so hugely popular, and forced the knowledge out that there were more comics than just Marvel and DC and superheroes out there, and people started to go look for them!! Ultimately setting the way for webcomics and everyone else!!! It’s hugely influential!!
Anyway but yes I am so glad you like it and that you also like my comic I’m sorry I gushed at you about things you already know (like how great Elfquest is). Have a great great day!!
I have no idea what this is from but i instantly love and support him. YOU SPEAK THE TRUTH MY SON
This is Gonzolo from Helix waltz!! He’s the oldest son of noble family Jorcastle, and the only chill one of the bunch (which isn’t really a high bar but still should be said). He’s in love with city guard Alan and will try and throw down with the main character if he thinks she’s trying to court Alan. Otherwise they’re thick as thieves when it comes to Courtly Shenanigans.
Aaaaa canonical gay characters as well as all this other coolness?? I’m really sad now cos it seems its not available on android 😦
that sucks 8( i have had this game on my phone for two weeks and it’s eaten me alive, send heeeelp….. I’ve been pleasantly surprised so far and apparantly you can romance men and women in it??
Plot Designing 