jumpingjacktrash:

the-real-seebs:

bpd-anon:

Growing up, I was told from many sources (books, tv, parents, teachers, inspirational quotes) that you should never half ass anything. That in everything you do, you should give your all. Honestly, that’s a recipe for misery and burnout. You need to half ass most things so you have enough ass left to give your whole ass to the things you care about. Or at least I do.

Executive function is absolutely a thing. But there’s a lot of things that are Done Better if you do them carefully, and doing them badly ends up being a spoon drain. The trick is learning to figure out which ones…

also asking yourself occasionally, “does this deserve my whole ass?” because quite often the task deserves about 28% of the left cheek

heavyweightheart:

and i’ve mentioned this before but the common conception that ppl who constantly suffer become desensitized to suffering is perfectly wrong. ppl who experience repeated psychological and physiological stressors, esp in childhood, actually become more responsive to stress, w stress response systems in the brain & body getting increasingly sensitive to stimuli and having more prolonged/exaggerated reactions  

what doesn’t kill you does not make you stronger, it makes you sicker and less able to cope biologically and emotionally w additional hardship

fuckyeahmercury:

“Aretha Franklin’s phrasing is just wonderful. I wish I could sing like her. Her phrasing is so beautiful, so effortless. She just sings like a dream. She doesn’t have to think about it. When I have to sing, I think about it, I have to think “OK I have to…” and I practice a few phrases and then do it. I can tell by listening to Aretha Franklin’s records that she just goes and then… it’s effortless. Having said that, I’m sure she will call me up and say “Wait a minute!”. But it just sounds so effortless and spontaneous… which is what I love. I sometimes try to do that, like the song Somebody To Love.“”

— Freddie Mercury about Aretha Franklin, 1984.